What is confidence anyway? How do you know when someone is at peace with themselves or just really good at ‘faking it until they make it’? Some of the most socially outgoing people I know have very low esteem and will be the first to admit that they are very good at putting on a brave face, shrugging life off with self-effacing humour, or by poking fun at others.
Real confidence comes from within, from a position of self-acceptance and self-love. It is not always possible to measures another’s confidence from their popularity, their social behaviour, their appearance or what others say about them. Confidence doesn’t have to shout or be surrounded by crowds; it is a calm, sense of inner knowing and self-recognition.
Truly confident people know their own strengths and weakness’. They offer to support to others and allow themselves to receive support when they need it. They accept themselves and recognise that if they make a mistake they can take responsibility for it, can learn from it and move forward without having to hold onto guilt or shame. They know their own mind without having to impose their beliefs on others, and they allow others to have their own opinions, without having to agree with them.
Some people are born with this self-esteem whereas most of us learn it as we go along. There are simple affirmations that can help. Telling yourself daily that your opinion matters, that you are worthy of recognition and that you have something to offer. Other people find it useful to make a list of all the ways in which they do feel confident and then another of the ways in which they are yet to feel fully confident. Assessing what they would need to do in order to feel more confident in these areas is a useful exercise to moving towards better self-esteem. Recognising that you have skills in some areas and not yet in others but that is okay, is a way to feel self-acceptance.
Confidence isn’t about being good at everything – it is about accepting the way you are now and recognising you can choose to reach a higher potential.
I work with people to help improve their confidence and self-esteem using an empowering cutting edge healing modality, ThetaHealing. This is how people feel after working with me on their confidence issues.
''Thank you! What a powerful session I had with you yesterday. I can already see and feel changes within myself. I so appreciate it. Each session, it's like physical weights being lifted from my body; I have changed so much in the last few months - I'm more self-aware, more assertive, I have more direction.....just more!'' T.L Edinburgh
'I have a new job which I wouldn't have even applied for let alone succeeded at interview. I earn more, feel more confident and have a taken another step on the ladder of my career, Emotionally I am stronger and now have rebuilt up my social life which is opening up all the time. The best investment I have ever made was in myself, with Bilva Life. Thank you, Nicola! '' H F Edinburgh
‘’Thank you for the sessions we had and the wonderful advice you shared with me. I felt so relieved after. All I wanted to do was to jump for joy and get some flamboyant clothes and get rid of the old black/grey ones. I started feeling that my senses are back and I'm able to enjoy all small things of life again.......the world is my oyster! I had no idea how lucky I was to be where I am now. Thank you so much.'' R L Reading
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