Further, those of you already versed in the concept of the Law of Attraction will recognise that the more we act as if we have what it is we seek, the sooner we attract it. Gratitude is the icing on the cake - the more we are grateful for what we already have, the more we attract similar things to us.
Do you want to try it? Why not take thirty days to try it out? For the next month, take the time to notice at least one thing every day that you feel grateful for. In can be anything from something you feel privileged to have seen, a relationship you have, the sunshine, or your health…something different everyday, however small. You can just notice and acknowledge it, write in a journal, create a gratitude board or fill up a jar with little pieces of grateful paper - whatever works for you! Let me know how you feel in a month!
I love you, humanity,
The Answers are Within you!
As humans we often need reassurance that we are doing something right or doing the ‘right thing’.
Some of us are fearful of this most of the time and prefer to be told what to do and when. We choose to remain within a level of our job so that we are not the ultimate decision makers. We choose to go along with our friends’ ideas for evenings out and holidays. We choose to allow our spouse to decorate the home and we are happy with this. Others of us are completely opposite and hate being ‘told what to do.’ We seek to lead in our workplace and are ambitious to raise through the ranks. We have ‘great’ ideas for social events and enthusiastically encourage others to join. We choose to make the decisions for our home and family.
Some people always need reassurance that they are making the right decisions whilst others never do, and then there are of all of us who are somewhere in between on this decision making spectrum.
Wherever you feel you fit into this, and there is no better or more admirable position, most of us humans still look for reassurance in some ways. Many of us look for others to validate us either verbally, through their actions, through social media attention, or from rewards such as promotions or awards. Some of us look for ‘signs’. Spiritual signs from guides, angels or even God are welcomed by people all over the world. Some of us await instruction from these spiritual advisors. Others favour practical signs such as a growing business, financial reward or a satisfied customer. We also welcome signs from our own selves that we are making the right decisions; we feel physically or emotionally healthier or we have a deep sense of accomplishment.
This is human nature – we all want to be reassured that we are doing the right thing, making the right decisions and just getting it right….but what is right? Who knows anyway? Why we would suppose that there is in fact a single right thought, action or decision at all? Of course we are guided by our own morality and the social consciousness of what is morally acceptable in our culture. Likewise, most of us are guided by the law of our land. However assuming that we acknowledge and work within these parameters, why are we still so scared of getting it wrong?
We are spending so much time seeking reassurance from others that we often fail to see that we already have the answers within. We are all divinely wise and the only right decision for us is one we make ourselves. Of course we can listen to others’ advice and we can ask for guidance, but understanding that ultimately we are the only ones capable of making decisions for ourselves because we already have the answer within us is true freedom. Freedom to always get it right. Right for you.
Wishing you an empowered day!
I love you, humanity
Hey beautiful people,
Something has been occurring to me over the past few months in small flashes of inspiration and via little signs. Little signs such as things people say, seemingly insignificant occurrences, observing the world around me and, actual signs, actually! When I didn’t take much notice of the universe’s pointers, then I got a huge great situation presented to me until I learnt the lesson it was trying to show me. This is what usually happens when I don’t follow my intuition and notice what the universe is telling me, so I should be prepared for these big life lessons! (Note to myself to take notice!)
So what was this lesson all about? Letting go! I am an organised person. I have drive, self-motivation and I can put my ideas into action. So when I am seeking a certain outcome, I don’t just sit around hoping it will work out, I take action and make it happen. This is a great attitude to have when the outcome is largely dependent on you: a business venture; preparing for a marathon; getting a new job; de-cluttering your house or releasing weight. However many of the outcomes we seek in life are co dependant on other people too. Their decisions, opinions and free will come in to play; and the more people involved, the more complicated it gets to try and manage the outcome you desire with the traditional ‘just go out there and get it’ attitude.
In the past I have sent far too long assessing situations to try and manage the outcome ; making plans As, Bs, Cs……Zs, all ready and in place for the ‘what ifs’. I set a lot of store by manifesting and part of this process is taking action and being prepared.
However what I have really learnt over the past few months is that sometimes you have to realise that you have taken all the action you can. I have learnt to recognise when it is time to stop taking action or planning for every eventuality and have faith in the universe.
Only from this highest perspective can all the pieces fall into place; you have to realise that you have done your part and you cannot control what the other people are doing or how they will behave. You have to trust in your manifesting, your action and that if this is meant to be that all will be well. Sometimes just continuing as if all is well, even when you have no idea because you only have access to your little piece of the puzzle, is not only the best thing to do but the only thing you can do. So I have been learning to ‘Let go and trust in the universe to do the managing’. It is a little scary, but it is also very freeing.
Let go and have faith. I know it is not easy for those of you out there who seek to create their life and do it with drive and focus; but it gets easier and it is so refreshing to let go and just ‘know’ that you have done your part to the best of your ability.
You are deserving of having the universe organise the big picture so you have the outcome you desire. You don’t have to understand how it happened, or what the process was, you can just enjoy the rewards.
In pursuit of happiness? Allow joy!
A popular aim for most human is to be happy.
‘I just want to be happy!’
‘I don’t care as long as I am happy.’
‘Happiness is the most important thing to me.’
Recognise yourself in any of these statements? Being happy is wonderful, exhilarating and for some, a perfect state of being. However indicative in these statements is that the happiness is a goal, and end to a journey which once you eventually arrive there, you should do everything to stay at, remaining still at this blissful destination. In which case it could imply that on reaching the station of happiness one should stop; never change anything and remain in the happiness.
All of us at some time, go through periods in our life when we feel overwhelmed, trapped, and full of grief or anger. That is normal; but even in these times we can find moments of joy and pleasure and we can choose to notice them. Whether these experiences are sights, tastes, smells, sounds or physical touch, we can choose to allow that joy into our life at that moment irrespective of what is troubling us.
Allowing yourself to experience that joy is part of loving yourself. It will create a happiness within you that is present all the time; not a destination but a state of mind.
I love you, humanity,
Virtues are Strong!
Alternatively, others may see these virtues in you and it feels to you, that they dismiss your needs and actions because you are not assertive or loud enough. Truly it is the perception of these virtues that we must change.
In terms of interacting with others we should take care to notice each other, to make room for everyone, to allow others to shine. There is no need to push, to talk over others, to rush all the time, just to make sure you are noticed. You are unique. What you have to offer is unique and there is room for all of us unique beings to shine.
Wishing you a day full of self-love!
I love you, humanity
Do you Trust Yourself Enough to be Self- Validating?
Good Morning beautiful people!
When was the last time you made a major decision without talking it through with someone else? External validation can be a great thing, a really useful tool to help us take major life changing moves. Advice from friends, experts and family at important times in our lives is wonderful.
However it is when the balance tips from having this type of support on hand, to needing external validation for our normal day to day lives. Wanting others to tell us we look great today or we are socially acceptable, by posting a selfie on Instagram is an extreme version of this need. This practice has become so much parts of our everyday life that it is considered normal amongst teenagers to value themselves on the number of ‘likes’ they get on social media – even if they buy them; so in reality the only person they are kidding is themselves.
When did you stop trusting yourself to decide if you were wearing the right clothes, making the right choices or hanging out in the right places? I have a lovely memories of my oldest daughter when she was a toddler wearing a tutu and wellies every day and everywhere, because she knew looked exactly how she wanted to and it was the perfect outfit for every occasion – she didn’t care that it wasn’t in fashion or that is wasn’t ‘normal’ attire for walking the dog. She wasn’t choosing her outfit to make a statement or to fit in, she wore what she liked because she liked it.
.Good morning beautiful people!
It is common to talk about creating your life, manifesting your dream and aligning these actions with the universe so it all falls into place with ease. And, yes, definitely this is an excellent plan to moving forward. But how do you know when you are in alignment and what does that actually mean?
Simple! It is when things start shifting in the right direction. When slowly you begin to notice that plans and ideas you have had, perhaps you have been manifesting for, are coming to fruition.
It may be small things like recognition for your efforts from a colleague, or money coming into your life from a project you have been working away at for some time, or as if from nowhere, people stepping forward to support you.
These events may appear unrelated, or so insignificant that you don’t notice them at first. But notice, beautiful people! And as you notice, feel gratitude; say a prayer of thankfulness, whisper your gratitude to the universe, tell others and rejoice in the shift in your alignment.
We are mirrors to the universe, what we do, think and how we behave gets reflected back us at. So the more you show gratitude to the universe, it will figure out that you like these gifts and so the more of the same you will get back. You will shift further into alignment.
I can feel alignment in my life now and it feels good! It took me a while to notice it. Even when ideas started flowing with ease, even when I was being given recognition from key people, even when I was getting emails from all over the world offering support with my project, even when gifts literally started falling in my lap – and then yesterday when a somewhat unrelated event happened at home – the penny dropped!
Without going into too much detail, I have needed some building work doing in my home for a few years and because I thought the whole project had to be completed in one (expensive) go, and knowing how disruptive it would be, I have procrastinated over dealing with it, even though it was a constant source of irritation. This week I felt compelled to make some simple (one click) enquiries. Yesterday two angels disguised as builders came over, described a workable phase by phase plan, quoted a more than reasonable price, with delayed payment plan, and the work to be done when I am away next week to avoid disruption to my family. And then I got it! I am in alignment, I am receiving, and I am so grateful. Thank you, thank you, and thank you!
I wish you the ability to recognise when things are going your way and support you in your gratitude. Let me know when things are working out for you so that I and all of us, can celebrate with you.
You are worthy and deserving, humanity
I love you,
Catch Them Being Good!!
So lots of people have written to me (which is cool, I love to hear from you), about the way they find the world a harsh place to be. Particularly in terms of the way we interact with each other at times; and how can one be so positive as I am about our beautiful planet and all who co-exist on her? I am not a fan of rose-tinted glasses but I do advocate, if you are feeling down about our wonderful network of humanity, an approach used in schools for turning around the behaviour of ‘naughty’ children – Catch them being good!
Of course people do bad things – we see it on the news every day, we may experience it in our lives – but you know, on the whole, most people do good things. Simple, everyday little acts of kindness, sharing and compassion. All you have to do is to start to notice, and the more you do, the more you will notice more, and the more your faith in humanity will be realised. (For those teachers out there, I can hear you saying, it is the perpetrator who is meant to then start being good by positive reinforcement – I know – but it kind of works for the onlooker too in terms of changing attitude - trust me!)
If you open your eyes and really notice what is going on today as you walk to work you’ll see: a young woman helping a mother off the bus with her cumbersome pushchair; a school crossing lollipop man wiping away a boy’s tears after he falls over; a shopkeeper taking a few pennies less than the price from an old lady buying teabags; strangers stopping to chat and smile as their dogs connect on the street; a driver waving other drivers through with a cheery smile at a busy junction; a neighbour snipping another’s overgrown hedge as they are too frail to do it themselves or a man stopping to hold open the huge street bin lid for a child who is trying to drop their litter into it. This what is what I saw on my walk to work this morning – it’s a short walk. In less than five minutes. I saw all of these wonderful people doing wonderful random acts of humanity. What can you experience when you catch us all being good?
I love you, humanity
Good morning beautiful people!
I promised I would tell you more about the concept of being self-full – I know this is going to really help some of you. It is an idea, a way of being, that I teach almost of all of the people I work with. Those that I don’t teach it to either already know it or just aren’t ready to embrace it yet.
So what is it all about? In the English language we have almost more words than any other language in the world. (Sadly however most native speakers rarely use more than a tenth of them on a regular basis – but that is a whole other discussion!) In our expansive vocabulary we have a word to describe people who think only of themselves, selfish. We also have a word to describe those who think of others before themselves all the time, selfless. There is nothing in between! No word to describe the vast gulf between selfishness and selflessness. Initially one might suppose that one is wrong and the other is right, so there is no need for a middle ground. Selfish – bad; selfless – good! No! They are both as limiting in different ways. Someone who is entirely selfish may initially have life the way they want it but they invariably end up without a circle of support, lonely and unhappy. Those who are entirely selfless may be initially praised and feel good about their service to others, but with no time spent on their own needs become exhausted and resentful.
So I have devised a new expression to describe a more comfortable way of being, the middle ground between selfish and selfless. Self-full!
The best way to illustrate self-fullness is this: Imagine being on a aeroplane, sitting next to a toddler when the plane starts to move around violently and the oxygen masks come down. If you attempted to put the mask on the frightened child first, you may well end up in a deadly struggle as they thrash about in fear. This could end in tragedy for both of you. If, however you put your own oxygen mask on first as recommended, which will take you a matter of seconds, then you are in a safe position to calmly help the frightened child.
Of course, I can hear some of you saying that the child may just pull his mask off anyway however calm and reassuring you are. True; but without wishing to be harsh, at least one of you has survived and you know you did your utmost to help them live.
You are worthy of having your needs met too.
I love you, humanity
Light someone up today!
I am commuting to London this weekend to teach the Game of Life ThetaHealing® practitioner seminar to a lovely group of students, and I have been reminded of the wonderful network of humanity to which we belong and how all the short, sweet day to day interactions that we have with people, keep all of us alight. We are all little sparks of energy and how we interact with each other has a huge effect on us and the other person.
The lead actor from the latest film about to be released in the UK, ‘’ A Street Cat Named Bob’, lived homeless for a week to get into his role, and he said the most significant feeling for him was of being invisible to others. Hour after hour, people walked past him, ignoring him and the feeling of being so unimportant that you are invisible to others was far more disturbing than the cold and hunger he was also feeling. Making others feel noticed and important, even for a short interaction will help them feel special, wanted and alive. If you shine your light when you meet others you can help them burn a little brighter too, until all of us humans can be alight and shiny! Smile, be cheerful, polite, friendly, attentive, kind and patient.
Where does the commuting come into this? Well, I have been travelling on some packed, very early morning and late night trains for a few days now, and without exception, every ticket collector, trolley steward and conductor on the South Western trains that I have crossed paths with has been cheerful, kind, thoughtful and warm to me and everyone else in the carriages. So thank you to the ticket collector on the early morning train that cheerfully wishes everyone a good morning, but not too loudly that he wakes up the sleepier passengers; he gently moves their arms to check their tickets which they have left out on the table to be checked. Thank you to the trolley steward who when seeing me wrestle with ‘the sugar or no sugar this morning argument’ gave me some packets anyway, ‘ I know you said didn’t want any, love, but just in case you change your mind.’ Is she psychic too? And, thank you to the conductor who swinging her way down a very busy evening train, stopped to ask a young business man if her was alright as he looked like he had a headache. He politely answered that he was just really tired and would probable nod off, so she offered to come back as his stop approached in order to ensure he woke up and disembarked. Is this a train company staff full of healers? Or is this just my witnessing how all of us, this amazing network of humanity, should treat each other every day?
Whose light are you going to keep shining today?
I love you, humanity